I’ll be the first to say I love sleeping in. I could (and sometimes do) sleep in every single day with no regrets. But, I’m so much more productive when I set a goal to wake up early and stick to a basic routine.
If I don’t wake up before the kids do, the hours in the day are so much shorter. (Duh Lauren that’s what happens when you sleep in) But seriously, y’all know what I mean. If I’m able to wake up 1-3 hours before my beautiful heathens do, I’m able to focus 100% on myself and my tasks.
I’m definitely not strict on a set wake up time, or an exact order that I do things, but having a basic checklist and then being able to tend to the “as needed stuff” peacefully has brought my overwhelm level down dramatically.
Plus I get to enjoy my morning coffee and a nice, uninterrupted smoke sesh while watching the sunrise. (cannabis mom tings)
So now that you know whyyyy I like having a routine, let me fill you in on what it looks like for me.
I like to shoot for a 6-7am wake up time.
If I’m up before the sun, it’s a win for sure. But honestly anytime before 8:30-9ish is better than nothing because that’s usually when the kids start moving.
Sometimes my oldest son likes to wake up shortly after me and dad so he can play his Xbox in peace lol. He takes after me with the slow mornings and likes to be up before his brother and sister.
I’m not a morning person at all so I take things real slow. Wake up, restroom break, sit and stare at the wall for 15 minutes contemplating adulthood, ya know – that kind of thing.
I always slip into more cozy mom clothes and make sure that I’m comfortable and warm. Then I’ll usually go make my coffee before anything else. Slow living is the best life. Make time to enjoy the little things.
I turn my coffee on and then I try to at least unload or load the dishwasher, whichever needs to be done first. I cook the majority of our meals so dishes are literally a never ending cycle in my house.
If your sink is always full of dishes, same girl. Don’t feel bad.
If I can start the day off making things easier for myself I’m all for it. After my coffee is ready I always make time to sit and enjoy it and nothing else. Well, besides a blunt. That’s how it is when you’re a cannabis mom.
Medicating with cannabis has improved my life in so many ways and I’ll always begin the day that way.
It helps calm my anxieties, slow my adhd thoughts, relaxes my achy joints, and gives me the energy I need to begin a successful day. It also helps me with being a more “happy” and patient mom.
It’s not for everyone but it’s definitely for me. I’ll save that story for another day.
After my slow wake up, I head to my office chair.
This is where things change daily. My tasks are always different but always related, aka important shit that’s gotta get done.
I’ll take care of bills, check bank accounts and numbers, check emails, and then make a task list for my businesses if not done already.
I’ve ran an online shop for about 2 years now and I just opened up another one at the end of last year. I like to spend at least an hour at my desk getting as much done as possible.
Sometimes my youngest will wake up a little before 9, but only wants to snuggle back to sleep for a bit. Regardless, the boys are always up first. My soon to be 6 year old daughter would sleep all morning if we let her lol.
Once everyone is awake, or at least close to being awake, so I start on breakfast for us. Majority of the time I cook scrambled eggs and breakfast potatoes with a side of fruit, cinnamon rolls, toast, or pancakes.
Some mornings it’s just cereal or waffles, but most of the time we eat greedy lol. If we start with cereal or something small, I always end up having to feed us again by 10 or 11am so I’d rather just knock it out and then eat again at lunchtime.
I let the kids eat and watch their morning shows or play on the iPads while hubby and I head back to the office. We eat and talk about our plans for the day while doing a little more work. Our desks face opposite walls so we’re back to back. I love being close but still having our own “private spaces” to turn to. It helps me concentrate and get things done rather than laughing with him nonstop lol.
By 10:30 I’m starting, or have started, getting me and the kids dressed for the day.
Josh does UberEats for lunchtime, 11-2ish. We like to ride along with him but sometimes we just stay behind at the house and I start to clean up for the day.
If we have errands to run then we definitely tag along and take care of everything while we’re out. The kids like being in the car and sightseeing around the city. They take notebooks, coloring books, movies, and other little things to keep them occupied.
We usually get back by 2 or 3 and then it’s time to recharge.
If we didn’t grab food while we were out, or eat beforehand, I’ll start making lunch. Typically I cook for this meal too because sandwiches just don’t always cut it.
We’ll have the kids help us clean up while I’m preparing lunch.
Afterwards, it’s either time for a nap or a recharge.
A recharge for us looks like another smoke sesh while the kids have chill time doing what they choose. Normally my youngest has already napped while we were in the car, but otherwise he’ll be sleeping by this time.
We go back to the office and spend however long doing the tasks we have.
Usually the rest of the day looks different each time, but always ends with dinner and watching a movie before bed. We’re sometimes night owls and stay up late, other times we’re asleep by 9 or 10. The kids are usually knocked out by 10 too. Right now we don’t have a set bedtime for them but our routine keeps them “chill” and they find their way to sleep easily.
We usually put the movie on around 8 and most of the time they’re asleep before it’s over.
As you can see our typical day is very different than others. We don’t do 9-5s anymore, we don’t send our kids off to public school, we don’t have a “homeschool routine”, and we basically do whatever the fuck we want.
That’s exactly the way we like it and we’ve worked so hard to create our lives to be this way. It has never been easy but it’s always been worth it.
Not everyone agrees with or understands our lifestyle and that’s ok. We have found what makes us happy and that is literally all that matters. The only thing in this life that we should be striving to do is live life on our terms and doing things the way that make us happy.
I hope that my blog and sharing my life encourages you to do things your way, regardless of judgement.
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